A Healing Approach: Living with negativity

At times we may feel perplexed and lose sight of the light because we may be too immersed in the dynamics of a problem, an issue with our self which may seem to prevent us from moving forward sometimes surrounded by negativity as if a grey cloud has descended and filling our conscious space it emanates in circles entrenching us further. This situation may be fed by inner beliefs of what we feel we can and cannot do, which establishes firm boundaries relating to our beliefs in who we are; solidifying these beliefs as if a wall has been placed there.

But if we can find a way to live with this aspect and not make it insurmountable it is possible to free one self from this cycle. If we can see the ensuing difficulty as yet another aspect , to see it, to observe it and not define the self entirely by it. What does this mean to you? Does this aspect of self (a fear or anxiety etc.) have to be an all invading structure such as a wall which sets up limitations, or is there another way to see this difficulty/issue in our lives? We may ask ourselves, what meaning does this difficulty hold? What does it bring to our awareness, what is at the root of this problem? And what is it rooted in? What indication can this difficulty give towards which direction to follow? This may be the gift it brings if we allow ourselves to see and open ourselves to a fuller knowing of ourselves as a whole.

Instead of feeling consumed by it we can instead choose to work with it, in this way the inner conflict subsides as we choose a loving approach. We may ask ourselves: Is this aspect indicating an area where we may want to understand and release outdated beliefs and thus create new ones, to focus light on and bring healing, to heal this situation.

We have the choice to direct the way forward - We can bring a nurturing perspective, such as that when helping a small child to lovingly accept themselves and see their ability. If we accept that part/aspect which causes problems we are then able to create a loving and warm supportive and safe inner environment so that change and development can take place. It is possible to accept instead of punish that part/aspect which perpetuates problems such as avoidance fear etc, to accept the frightened self; bringing love to the situation but at the same time aware that we want to work with this part to bring healing and development.

As we focus attention on the meaning of these obstacles in this way with a loving perspective we bring a greater awareness and positive consequences to our lives from within which reflects outwardly. When we are loving towards ourselves new pathways can be found which did not exist before.

October 2006